But once dating stopped being such a big part of my life and I wasn't virtually surrounded by people seeking a partner, I began to realize a few years is not a long time at all.
It just felt long because I wasn't comfortable being single—and I wasn't comfortable being single because I just hadn't allowed myself to be.
Even when I wasn't dating anyone, I was to date someone.
I may not have had a significant other, but I had prospects.
It's actually ended up lasting a year because after seven months, I met someone—and it was IRL.
The biggest reason I had for deleting my dating apps was just an insufficient return on investment.
" I projected confidence, and I wasn't willing to settle.
Seeing that contrast made me realize how nervous and desperate to please I'd been in the past. While nervous people come off like they have something to be nervous about, confident people come off like they have something to be confident about—and others want to know what that something is.7. " Because I hadn't experienced this thought process in a while, I caught it very early on and was able to say, "Down, girl. I put up with people I shouldn't have Getting more comfortable being single helped me see what lengths I'd gone to in order to avoid singledom.As with Twitter, Facebook, Linked In, and email, I checked it compulsively with the hope that some exciting notification would greet me on the homepage. I also realized that when I used Tinder, I was swiping compulsively to try to find out who my "super likes" were, often not even reading profiles.I wasn't even messaging the people I matched with—I just wanted the ego boost of getting a match.But people had relationships before dating apps existed and—surprise! It took a little while, but when I was putting less energy into scoping out prospects on dating apps, I had more time for parties, spontaneous encounters, and other ways to meet people.I ended up meeting my partner at a nightclub while on vacation in Ibiza with a girlfriend.Back when FOMO was keeping me glued to my apps, I wish someone had reassured me other prospects would come my way if I looked up for a second.2.