Your own survival is crucial, and if you do happen to fall in love with a married man, there are several hard truths you need to know. The needs of the many (namely, his family) will always outweigh your needs.
Perhaps the best advice you can give someone about having a relationship with a married man is telling her not to even start. As my friend Jenna* told me, "You can't help who you fall in love with.
The love of your life just might be a married man." Being part of any couple can be challenging and unpredictable, as we all know.
In fact there usually isn't after the affair is over. Even though he has a deep feeling of love for you, he is able to process it in an unemotional way.
He's not a bad guy, he may be a wonderfully kind person, but he is also a practical one.
Oh and before this happened, he had trouble sleeping, wasn't eating, was practically chain smoking, and drinking Monsters like they were going out of style. It may take a while for those meds to start working.
In the meantime, encourage him to track his symptoms in a daily log.
I couldn't follow what he was saying, nothing made sense to me. If he was just diagnosed (which I'm not sure) how long does it take for the meds to start working? If he stopped his meds, how long before an episode would happen?
My questions are when he gets in these states, does he remember our phone conversations?
He told me he had some sort of nervous breakdown a while back and they put him on medication.
I phoned our friend who has known him a long time and told him how worried I was.
After that, nothing again, so I think he isn't feeling right still and maybe the meds need more time to kick in.